Society for Sacred Sexuality

Luridan · Posted: July 10, 2005

heh heh, ummm, just curious... but am I the only virgin on this site?
I am probably the youngest too right: 17 (ok, I said my age so I wouldn't seem that pathetic Mr Green

). So, If I start saying stupid things about sex elsewhere on this site, don't hold it against me because I have no idea what I'm talking about! Eye Roll

Great site by the way. I hope it gets finished soon.

-Luridan

Gary Joseph · Posted: July 10, 2005

Luridan, you don't know how lucky you are to be learning sacred sex as a 17 year old virgin. I WISH I knew sacred sex at your age, and as a virgin. Most of us have to UN-learn all the mistaken notions we have about sex these days. You won't have to worry about that. Find a nice guy and tell him you won't have sex with him unless he learns how to do it right.

BTW, in sacred sex, 'virginity' has a different meaning than we commonly give it. It is not a physical purity, but rather a spiritual one. In sacred sex, every sexual encounter is pure & sacred, leaving you 'virgin' -- spiritually pure. (I'll discuss this in the Life Cycle Forum -- I hope you'll post often there.) So, you're in a great position to be as pure as a virgin your whole life. Lucky you.

And don't be shy about posting on the site because you're not 'experienced'. Sometimes the most insightful ideas come from minds that haven't been trained in the wrong way of doing things...like having sex. (Of course, you can always go to your Profile and write yourself a disclaimer signature like, "hey, I'm a 17-yr old virgin, what do you expect?!" -- that will appear at the bottom of all your posts. das funny!

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Luridan · Posted: July 11, 2005

Gary Joseph · Posted: July 12, 2005

uhhhh...please excuse me while I extricate my foot from my mouth. Blue blush

I guess it was a combination of the 'V' word and the 'C' word ('children'). Most guys, especially teens nowadays, don't talk that way. I sincerely apologize for the error; I shouldn't be making assumptions. It just shows how our culture trains us only to hold women to the standard of virginity, while it's supposedly a non-issue for men -- unfair double-standard.

Now that I know a little more who I'm talking to, let me say:

"Luridan, you're a credit to our gender." Niiice!

There aren't many teenage guys today interested in sacred sex. It's great that you're already aware that there's more to sex than '3 seconds and done'. I re-read my post, and everything else I said still stands, except I'll change my dating advice:

Find a nice girl, and when the time comes in your relationship to sexually consummate it, tell her you want it to be special, and that you want to have sacred sex, not just any old sex. Introduce her to the website and tell her that's what you want to share with her. She will love you to the end of the world for respecting and honoring her body. I also suggest you don't rush it -- better to do it when the time is right and have that memory for the rest of your life, than to rush into it and afterwards wish you had waited.

Gary Joseph · Posted: July 13, 2005

I see you took my advice about the avatar -- nice...though some of those anime ones look kind of androgynous.

Hardy-har

newsacredsexy · Rising Contributor Joined: 18 Jun 2004 Posts: 16

Wow, I was surprised to learn that you were a guy too. I guess we're all stuck in stereotypes.

I'm not a virgin, but sometimes I feel like a virgin with sacred sex -- it's all so new; I feel like I'm doing it for the first time all over again. Angel

Is that common?

Gary Joseph · Posted: July 14, 2005

Yes -- it's a combination of the newness of it and how sacred it makes you feel.

That creates a 'virgin' experience.

russ · Posted: August 4, 2005

Hey Luridan! there is a saying: a person can make the same mistakes for years and call it experience. Don't worry about " saying stupid things about sex" or being pathetic because you are a virgin. You can learn much here and contribute more probably because of your youth. I look forward to seeing your posts for a picture into an inquiring young man's mind whose search has led him here. Personally, I don't think there are any stupid questions to be asked or statements to be made about sacred sex so you needn't apologise for your youth.

russ · Posted: August 4, 2005

Gary Joseph · Posted: August 4, 2005

Bravo, Russ...on both counts.

Re a new definition of virginity, we'll be exploring exactly that in the Virginity Forum. In fact, that definition isn't so 'new' as many think; there was a time when it was commonly viewed that way.

Board Moderator · Posted: September 10, 2005

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TantricJazz · Posted: January 25, 2011